I was watching a documentary about Rio Ferdinand and how he encourages his children to talk about their feelings because of the loss of their mother and it was heartbreaking but so lovely that they could talk openly about how they feel.

I then thought about a dear friend of mine who died of cancer leaving her two children behind and they barely talked about their mum because they couldn’t remember her.

My question is, should you have one foot in the past or look to the future and remember your loved ones inside but not talk about them every day? I just feel it is a good to talk in the short term but has damaging effects in the long term.